Happy New Year!

Patrick & I have been together for over a year! He is a pretty wonderful guy. We shall see how 2015 goes! He made 2014 bearable.

Sweetie-pie

Oops!

My last post was a draft since  November 2012 a little after I found out my now ex husband was cheating on me. He had ask for a divorce and lied through his teeth about the other woman. I did not mean to post it now. I was trying to delete it. Does not matter any more. He actually did me big favor.

 Those aren't even my words. They were off a site about why people cheat. I agree with them. I did try to make my marriage work. I am not sure why I did. He made me miserable the last 3 years of our marriage. It was a relief when it was over.

Once I really decided to pursue my interests, making friends, getting healthy, things began to really change for the better. I am so much happier. So much more interesting since I cool do some really activities, not just watch sports. Lost 40 pounds need to lose 40 more, maybe this spring....  But does not matter I have someone that thinks I am AWESOME  just the way I am.

YUP!

Here's the truth.  Your husband's affair has less to do with you (or even with her) than you think.  Often, an affair is a man's way to restore his self esteem or something that is broken within him.  Very often, the mistress was just at the right place at the right time.  It's more a matter of timing than anything else.  There's nothing special about her.  In fact, over 85% of cheating husbands admitted in a study that the other woman was not more attractive or more alluring than their wives. 

So, what does she have that you don't have?  She doesn't live in the real world! She doesn't have to pick up your husband's dirty socks or make his meals.  She likely doesn't demand a lot from your husband.  She's all fun without any sacrifice. She doesn't have to worry about the bills or running the household.  She can present herself as a fun diversion with no strings attached. 

Here's the problem; facing off with the other woman often doesn't always yield these results. Think about it! You are not dealing with a caring, rational woman. The very fact that she is involved with a married man suggests that she lacks character or a compassionate side and it certainly suggests that she is all about her needs and desires. Often times the other woman will use this opportunity to divulge details of the affair and cause you more pain, remember; she wants your husband and your life. This woman is typically not going to show remorse or make promises to "leave your family alone". The woman attempting to steal your husband is dishonest, spiteful, uncaring and has an agenda of her own; rarely are you going to gain satisfaction from dealing with such a twisted, selfish person. It's not unusual that confronting the other woman or seeking revenge on her will backfire and leave you feeling worse then you did before the confrontation. Think long and hard about your reasons for confronting her or seeking revenge before you put any plans into action. If we are able to think clearly and take our emotions out of the equation it's easier to conclude that she just isn't worth it!. And he isn't either.  he's a cheater, liar, etc....

Patrick

We're having fun getting to know each other.  Very strange to be  starting all over again, but pretty good and FUN!

I Wish

I look GREAT

Throwing away the past....

So I am clearing out cupboards and drawers to sell my once "dream house".  What to do with all the ticket stubs saved to make a bar top....Throw them away.... Cards anniversary, birthday Valentines....mean nothing anymore.  Feels like one big lie.  Very strange numb feeling.  I guess scrub away the past to have a bright shining future?

Thursday

Cathy I decided we deserved break tonight and went to the Boulevard.

Finally mobile!

I finally downloaded the app so I can blog on the run finally moving into this decade.

Many changes

1. So I've lost 45 pounds (AGAIN). Plans to lose 40 more. 

2.  I found Meetup groups (BEST THING EVER!) I've made so many GOOD friends. I am really                 

enjoying my life again (IT FEELS LIKE COLLEGE ALL OVER AGAIN!)

 

3.  I got divorced (DOING OK).

 4.   I am dating again (KIND OF SURREAL). It is funny. I'd been so beat down and unhappy.  I discovered  again that I am beautiful, fun, intelligent, funny, etc. and guys really like me.

5.  Finally getting my veins done in my legs.  Suffering for years with pain and ugliness.

More improvements on the way!

A Change will do me good...

Maybe Sheryl Crow is right, a change will do me good...   I guess I will find out,  definitely.

Insanity begins the 28 or 29!  Katie and I are are doing the 60 program.  will post the "befores" soon.

losing it

Almost back to Sept. 2011 weight  that will be a milestone!

I made Bread!

This recipe uses farmer's cheese, a semi-soft cheese with a mild flavor that can be tasted in the bread. The braided loaves feature a chewy crust and richly soft center. ( you can use any cheese though)

Yield: 2 braided loaves

Prep Time: 2 hours

Cook Time: 40 minutes

Total Time: 2 hours, 40 minutes

Ingredients:

• 1 cup milk
• 1 Tbsp butter
• 1 cup warm water (100 degrees F)
• 2 packages active dry yeast (1/2 ounce)
• 2 Tbsp sugar
• 2 tsp salt
• 1 cup farmer’s cheese, shredded
• 5 cups bread flour, approximately

Preparation:

1. In small saucepan, warm milk and butter until butter is melted. Set aside until warm (100 degrees F). In small bowl add water. Stir in yeast until dissolved. In large bowl, add warm milk and butter. Add yeast water. Stir. Stir in sugar, salt, and 2 cups of flour. When batter is smooth, mix in shredded farmer’s cheese. Continue to mix in flour until a stiff dough is formed. Turn dough out onto floured board and begin to knead in the remaining flour until the dough is firm and smooth, not sticky.
   
2. Put dough in greased bowl. Turn over so that dough top is also greased. Cover and let rise in warm, draft-free place for about 1 hour or until double in size. Punch down dough and knead for about 1 minute. Divide dough in half and set one half back in bowl.
   
3. To make a braided loaf, divide dough into 3 equal pieces. Work each piece with your hands to form a long rope, about 15 inches in length. Pinch ends of the 3 dough ropes together and tightly braid the dough. Pinch ends together again. Repeat for second loaf.
   
4. Preheat oven 375 degrees F. Grease and sprinkle yellow cornmeal on two baking sheets. Place each loaf on a baking sheet, cover and let rise in warm, draft-free place for about 30 minutes or until double in size. Brush egg white onto each loaf. Sprinkle with poppy seeds. Bake at 375 degrees F for about 40 minutes or when loaf sounds hollow when you tap on the bread top. Remove from heat and let cool on rack.

I LOVE HALLOWEEN

PROGRESS!

MORE THAN HALF THE STUFF WAS PITCHED!

I got a large drawer cleaned out upstairs in the TV stand.  Why we saved half of the stuff is beyond me.
Clearing the clutter out feels good.  Been slowly picking away at it.

So fitting where I went yesterday

RANT!

This is what I believe:

1. Pursuit of happiness in for everyone.  So if a man wants to marry another man  or a woman wants to marry another woman they should be allowed  to do so.

2. The constitution says pursuit of happiness it does NOT guarantee it. Giving people money FOREVER  on welfare would have disgusted our founding fathers.  Unless you are completely disabled you should work somehow for the money you receive.

3. I believe in gun control.  I think more extensive back ground checks should be done.  No one "needs" an assault rifle to hunt.

4. I believe abortions should be legal in these cases, rape, incest, and, health concerns for mother.  NOT as a form of birth control.  BUT women should decide NOT men.  Our bodies our health our concern.

5. I am tired of stay at home moms being made fun of, or less of, or people calling us "corporate wives".   We actually RAISE our own children not day cares.  Even when I tried to work  outside the home the hours for child care made it impossible with my husband's travel schedule.  I did run my own business from home...

6. Manners have been forgotten.  Parents do their children no good service allowing them interrupt adult conversations because they want the spot light.

7.  Any one who is cruel to animals should be horse whipped.  Seriously.

8. Drivers tests should be much harder.  You SHOULD get a ticket if you don't use your turning signals.  People over 65 should  have eye sight test EVERY year.

9. It should be harder for people to get married.  There should be classes/counseling on finance, parenting, and how to argue/ disagree effectively without hurting the other person.

10. Should be harder  to get a divorce.  Counseling for at least two years except in abuse cases.

11. There should be term limits for senators and congress.  Extensive back ground checks should be done on them.  NO CAREER POLITICIANS!

12. Pedophiles should be shot.

13. Murderers and rapists should serve their whole sentence in prison period.

14.  Everyone should have the SAME representation in the courts.  It should NOT matter how much money you have.

15.  Most lawyers SUCK.

16. Law suits should have a two year limit.  After that they are void.

17.  Over regulation kills businesses.

18. Being PC sucks.  Raising a nation of wimps.

19. They should teach this in school manditory:  how to cook, balance check book, make a budget, basic sewing, basic auto repair, how to do laundry, and how to clean and WHY.

20. BE KIND.


more later....

If it not one thing, it is another...

I'd just like to have a month where nothing goes wrong. No car problems, no kid problems, no house problems, etc.  IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK?!  Barring that can I PLEASE  win the BIG prize in the Power Ball lottery?

Sorry! This is going to be self-indulgent whine-fest.  It seems as soon as I get one thing fixed something else breaks.  I feel like I am running as fast as I can in muck-boots and deep mud.  If I don't keep moving I'll be sucked under the mud and drowned.

is it half empty or half full? 

I guess I need to focus on what I should be thankful for, not so negative. So here goes nothing! Half a glass of wine is better than none,  right?   LOL!

THANK GOD FOR LITTLE GIRLS

SO happy I have Katie.  She maked me laugh.  Pretty wonderful kid!  A ray of sunshine or rainbow about the most wonderful thing in my life right now. ( Courtney is wonderful too but she isn't round as much).